The Self Development Blog

We live our lives around others. What we do may directly or indirectly impact those around us. And our reach can grow and spread widely depending on the "amount" of influence we have. But that also works the other around. People may do or say things that directly or indirectly have an impact on our lives.

One important observation I have made over the years concerning why many people don't make significant progress towards some personal goal... is that many people aren't ready to fully commit to the "relationship".

Are you an Introvert or Extrovert (sometimes spelled as Extravert)? Does it even matter? Most importantly, does it contribute in any significant way to the progress you intend to make towards your goals?

Welcome to version 3 of the website. I will get into the reason why it's version 3 in a bit. First, I want to introduce you to what this "new" site is all about.

So, you have spent years developing your craft. Your hobby is beginning to look like something you are ready to turn into a profession. Although you know just how hard it is to get into some kind of business for yourself, you are determined to turn the one thing you are most passionate about… into a life of making money from your dream.

Sometimes we forget that the main focus of self-development is NOT to read books on a regular basis, or simply reflect on the actions you took because that’s what self-dev people do. Or make sure you develop strategic relationships over time. Those activities are just the “means to an end”. What we truly want from self-development is to actually be in a better situation than we previously were. To have and to live a better life. So we go through various processes (which fall under the umbrella of self-development) to ensure that we turn ourselves into people that actually can realize those goals that we want to accomplish.

Many of us who pursue goals were inspired by those who went before us and accomplished similar goals. What they attained, created, or became… to us seemed cool, exciting, and worth the effort that even we decided to go down a similar path.

Your strategy, choices, and actions change the deeper you get in your pursuit. Working on your goals will change you. Being exposed more and more to whatever is in the core of your industry, will influence what you do and how you think. It can change how you continue with that pursuit.

Passion and opportunity are very popular reasons why people pursue certain goals in certain industries. Maybe you love to write, so you pursue the dream to become a writer. Maybe you see an opportunity to provide delivery services because people can’t move freely these days because of the pandemic. It may take time to become a bigshot, but you believe you have something worth pursuing. But whether passion or opportunity is currently motivating someone to pursue a goal… the reality is that eventually, most people quit on their pursuit long before they can realize those goals.

Saying that 2020 has been tough would be an understatement. Things here on the Kidando.net platform have been slow. No podcast episode or blog post in months. I was asked the other day if I had essentially moved on from blogging.

When it comes to pursuing goals… one of the strangest and probably the most heartbreaking lessons I have ever had to learn, is that you have to take some level of responsibility for unwanted outcomes.

The biggest weakness you can ever have as a dreamer is the inability to develop strategic/productive relationships.